8 Fast Ways to Help you Get What You Want

For those who've read The Secret and have heard about using the Law of Attraction know how simple the deliberate creation process is: Like attracts like, so get in vibrational harmony with what you want, and let it in.

Seems straightfoward enough.

However, near enough everyone who tries using the law of attraction runs into problems.

So here are 8 fast ways to help get what you want and make life lots easier:

1. Focus on what you want - I can't stress how important this is. Write a well defined goal, getting it clear in your head about what it is you want and picture the end result with as much detail as possible. The clearer the vision the more you will be pulled forward.

2. Avoid thinking about what you don't want as you'll just get more of it. This is difficult if you are in debt and the bills are landing on the hallway each morning. However, if you think I want more cash, I need more cash.. You won't get money. You'll get more wanting and needing. So instead think about having it, think about it coming to you. Notice the difference in how you feel when you imagine having all the money you need. If you're feeling good or excited, you're in the right place! It's coming to you!

3. Strengthen your beliefs as much as you can. Another factor in getting what you want is your desire and whether you believe it’s possible to have it in your life. If you increase the believability that you can have what you want, discover your limiting beliefs that hold you back and keep reviewing the reasons you believe you can have what you want - this will again get you in the right zone. Believe it's yours, believe you have it already.. Believe it's coming to you.

4. Commit to what you want. The Universe responds to your commitment and confidence. Don’t wonder if you’ll ever get what you’re asking for; know it is yours simply because you want it and choose it. You can have whatever you choose, so embrace it with confidence that you can have it all.

5. Take passionate and inspired action. You should forget what you think you “should” be doing or what others think is possible. Listen to your built in guidance system, your intuition, pay attention to those all important hunches and gut feelings. Then follow up with action as quickly as possible. Take action that feels good!

6. Be grateful and appreciate the fact that it's coming to you. You must look for the first signs that your desire is manifesting, and flow appreciation for these signs mean it’s on the way. Gratitude for the small stuff will help the big miracle happen that much quicker! Keeping a gratitude journal is a powerful way to do this. Morning and night write 10 things you are grateful for in your life right now! Then 10 things you are grateful that are coming into your life. When writing, vividly imagine having what you want and being grateful for it.

7. Get good at feeling great. Be deliberate about maintaining a positive attitude and a good mood (Joy, love, appreciation, freedom). This means getting skilled at feeling fantastic day in and day out. Do things that make you feel happy and get rid of the things that don't make you happy on a regular basis.

8. Release any attachment. You need to work at reducing your resistance and increasing allowing what you want into your life by releasing your attachment to the actual outcome. Go with the flow, knowing everything is unfolding perfectly for you. What you resist, persists – so let go of any struggle and let it be nice and easy - go "down stream". You'll get what you want when you know it's happening, it's coming to you! It's done!

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Getting & Staying Motivated to Workout!

It's sometimes difficult staying motivated to working out while bringing up children, taking care of your house and maybe working.

The hard part is fitting the all important matter of your health and fitness in and then the small matter of getting started and sticking with it.

Here are 10 useful tips to assist you with staying motivated:

1. Write down what you want to achieve: Set a goal and be realistic when writing your goals. Create yourself some short-term goals and long-term goals. Firstly, focus on the short-term goals so you do not get discouraged.

2. Schedule it into your day: Try to workout first thing in the morning so you are fresh and not tired from your day. Working out gives you more energy and working out first thing in the morning means you will feel fantastic all day and burn more calories as your metabolism will be raised. I sit my 3 year old daughter down to her breakfast and have a workout DVD on my laptop whilst she watches children's tv, does some drawing/painting or sometimes joins in!

3. Get yourself a Support System: Share your goals with your partner, friends, mother, other family member, your life coach or someone that you trust. It's needs to be someone that will hold you accountable and help you stay on track. The fact that you've told them will hold you accountable and you'll get encouragement and compliments as you progress with your goals.

4. Find a friend to workout with: ask friends if they want to join you on your quest. This helps keep you motivated. If you both struggle with getting to a gym, you could share the cost of a personal trainer and ask them to visit to your home while the children are playing safely nearby. You are more likely to be consistent if you have someone keeping you accountable. If you are going to the gym, have set days you go and stick to them. It will become part of your routine and it will be easier to go.

5. Keep a workout and food diary: Keep a record of your workouts, what you did and how felt, so you can feel satisfied when you look back to see how far you have come. At the same time keep a food journal, this will help you keep track of what you eat and elimate those extra calories you consume!

6. Keep it varied: Try changing your exercise routine, try different activities to keep you from getting bored. You can look at including the kids - rounders in the park, long walks, bike rides, a canoeing trip, indoor climbing, go-karting, roller-skating, ice skating.. the list is endless. Be inventive but get as active as possible!

7. Treat Yourself: If you're making progress reward yourself with a luxurious facial, a massage, a new piece of sportswear, subscribe to a fitness magazine, enjoy a trip to the cinema with your partner. A small reward to work towards will be a great incentive!

8. When you really don’t feel like it: When you just don't feel like working out read a motivational story, listen to a motivational podcast (personally I subsribe to and really enjoy - Motivation to Move). If this doesn't work make a list of why you should do it for yourself (look at your goals), make a list of exercise benefits, put on your workout clothes, and once they are on you might as well go for a walk or jog.

9. No more excuses, commit yourself today: Tell yourself you will do it and don’t let yourself down. The hard facts are that your health is the most important thing, before anything else and if your not healthy and well you're just letting yourself down. Keeping active and being fit means you have an improved quality of life - being able to do things you enjoy for longer periods of time. For example, playing with the children, gardening, dancing, or walking.
Being fit has many short-term benefits, such as an improved sense of well-being, and long-term benefits, such as reducing the risk of suffering many debilitating diseases.

10. Think Positive: Create a list of positive quotes that inspire you to feel good (I've listed some great ones to start you off below) and when you are feeling demotivated get them out and read them over and over and watch what you say to yourself - negative self-talk just won't help you! You are working towards a goal that you want, so look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you CAN DO IT!

"I never regret it when I do it, but I always regret it when I don't." -- Devin McDonald Vinson, 37, Portland

"KMF: Keep Moving Forward" -- Laura Staub, 34, San Francisco, CA

"This run (or hill or these bicep curls) is bananas. B-A-N-A-N-A-S!" -- Sarah McDougal, 31, Denver, CO (to the tune of "Hollaback Girl," by Gwen Stefani)

"If you don't focus on your ass, no one else will." -- Cristina Goyanes, 27, Women's Health associate editor, New York City

"A strong outside strengthens the inside." -- Selene Yeager, 38, Emmaus, PA

"Beat, beat, beat, beat, fast little feet feet." -- Marit Fischer, 36, Salt Lake City, UT

"Thin, strong, lean, long…thin, strong, lean, long…" -- Kristen Lowery, 35, Colorado Springs, CO

"I am strong beyond belief. I am powerful beyond measure." -- Abby Ruby, 28, Boston, MA

"I can do it, I can do it, I can do it, I can do it"

"Think Holiday, Think Bikini!!"

Now, if you need more reasons to get started exercising regularly means the following:

• You lose weight - obvious one but worth mentioning;


• Your metabolism increases - you burn more calories;


• You have increased self-esteem - you feel better about yourself;


• You are going to be happier - exercise enhances your mood and relaxes your body;


• You are feel more rested as your sleep quality improves;


• Your immune system gets stronger - less cold, bugs and the like;


• Your circulation is improves, as exercise improves body performance;


• You eliminate toxins through the sweat glands;


• Vastly improves your sex life - you have more energy and body confidence;


• Your blood pressure and cholesterol;


• Your lower the risk of stroke;


• You strengthen your heart and lungs;


• You reduce your risk of cancer;


• If you are stressed it helps you control anxiety;


• It provides you with a great outlet for aggression and tension;


• It fills you with energy!

Right what do you need to go and do?

12 Steps to Being Happy

Remember, you deserve to be happy - we all do!

It's great for you and it's good for those around you. So don’t be shy about making being happy your number one priority.

So ask yourself now, this question "what makes me happy?"

You can pick up clues from what you like to think about, read and do with your free time.

Scientists are beginning to identify the roots of happiness. These steps are proven ways to start being happy. They are based on the latest advanced research by scientists into the new "science of happiness".

1. Be grateful - least at least five things you grateful for at the end of each day.

2. Take time to communicate with those you love most - have an hour-long conversation with someone who is dear to you each week and you'll reap the benefits in your relationships.

3. Lighten up and have a good laugh at least once a day. It increases the blood-flow to your heart, moves the muscles and gives you an internal massage. An interesting fact is having 100-200 belly laughs a day would be the equivalent of a high-impact workout and burning off 500 calories. So if you're having one of those days today, give yourself a complete break. Switch off that "doom and gloom" news and listen to something that makes you laugh - find a comedy station, DVD or CD, find something on http://www.youtube.com/ of arrange to go and see some stand-up comedy.

4. Phone a friend whom you have not spoken to for a while and arrange to meet up for coffee or lunch. Friendship should be fun, joy, telling jokes - is the adults version of children's play. These things enable us to develop valuable physical, social and mental skills. Give yourself permission to be kinder, funnier, warmer - your friends will love it.

5. Cut down the hours your spend watcing TV by half - watching TV deadens the mind and you know it. Watching soaps on TV is actually a sign of mild depression. You might think it to be relaxing but ask yourself for an honest "it's it fulfilling me?" There are so many better ways of spending your time. Learn about yourself and spend more time doing the things that make your heart sing!

6. Spread some kindness and do a good turn for someone each and every day. You'll be amazed at how good it feels seeing the positive results of your kindness - even if it's something small you will feel good.

7. Spend one hour of totally uninterrupted time with your partner every week - time just talking, going for a walk or run or going for lunch together, playing tennis - the list could be endless think of anything you both enjoy and do it together.

8. Find a hobby or activity that completely absorbs you, where you feel most yourself. This will be something that makes time seem to stand still. It could be your work, making music, painting a picture, playing sport. Psychologists call this a "flow activity", and people record the highest level of gratification afterwards.

9. Don't be a perfectionist. People normally come into two categories: "maximisers" and "satisfiers". The maximiser insists on looking at all the alternatives when out shopping before deciding what to buy. The satisfier, on the other hand, says: "That's good, that'll do me." The maximiser is doomed to a life of misery in the modern world, there is just too much choice. Going out for a meal turns into a trawl for the best restaurant, full of regret for all the choices not made.

10. Make time for at least 45 minutes of exercise three to four times a week and I can guarantee your general feeling of happiness will improve by about 20 per cent. It doesn't need to be anything too strenuous. Gardening, walking, a dance or drama class, even housework: anything that gets you moving. People who garden or go to the theatre are happier than those with their bum constantly in an armchair.

11. Smile loads!! People think you look more sincere, sociable - and attractive. And, yes, faking it can work as smiling actually releases feel-good chemicals (endorphins).

12. Be kind to yourself and be your own best friend. Quite Literally. You would defend your best friend to the hilt if others said something unkind about them, so do the exact same thing for yourself. You can fight off your own pessimistic inner voice by concentrating on what went right during the day and on the things you want - it could be a pleasant conversation, a beautiful view or a great haircut. If something horrible happens, regard it as temporary and concentrate on getting yourself focussed on something you enjoy or are grateful for.

These are just some ideas to get yourself feeling happier. Even if you master each of these tips. You'll obviously still have your ups and downs, and life wouldnt be life without the downs! If you didn't have challenges in life the ups wouldnt be nearly as sweet. What you can most certainly do is develop a change of attitude. When you do this those downs periods aren't nearly as long or painful!

So I challenge you to go try find something that makes you laugh right now and if you struggle... go spend some time with some young children you know!

They truly under the art of having fun. My three year old daughter has me dancing, singing and laughing at 6am. Yes, it's early but I'm oh so grateful as I can't think of a better way to start the day!

Go ... be yourself, Smile, laugh and be happy.

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You Can Teach Yourself to be Happier

One of the important things that scientists have discovered in recent times is that we can all teach ourselves to be happier.

One of the first things you have to do is to teach yourself to be optimistic and look on the brighter side of life.

Training yourself to be positive is a like training to be fitter.

You start off with different levels of fitness. Some people are more optimistic and look on the bright side more than others.

Here is a short story about an optimist and a pessimist called:

There Must be a Pony!

Once upon a time there was a psychiatrist who had twin boys. It was their eighth birthday. The father was worried because one of his sons was an optimist but the other one was a pessimist.

The father decided to do an experiment.

On Christmas Eve he filled the pessimistic child's bedroom with everything a boy could wish for and he filled his optimistist child's room with manure.

Early next morning the father went to see his boys. The pessimistic boy was among all his lovely presents; everything he could wish for and looked suspicious.

He was thinking, ‘What’s the catch?’

His father walked to the next boy’s room and saw that he was laughing. ‘Son,’ said the father, ‘what’s wrong with you, why are you so happy?’ The boy said, ‘Dad, with all this manure there must be a pony!’

(Adapted from Jim Kirkwood, 1957)

Pessimistic people take a situation in which they are uncertain about and come to a negative assumption.

For example, if they aren’t certain why somebody is being pleasant to them, they presume that person must have an unkind intention for doing so.

Optimistic people take that same situation and believe that the other person is simply being kind to them. If you work on your fitness level it will get better and if you work on being positive that will also make you happier.

As with training to be physically fit, the harder you train yourself to be positive, the quicker you will become happier. The important thing to remember is that you can become happier as long as you work on it.

Keep practicing happiness and positive way of life.

More postings on how to achieve this to come.

The Powers of Motivation

If you want to make changes in your life the ability to motivate yourself is such an important skill to have.

People who are motivated get results. Motivation is a driving force!!

In order to achieve your dreams, you need a driving force, otherwise you'll not get anywhere.

Wishing just isn't strong enough to ensure you take any action. A wish is only a weak desire.

Only a passionate desire can drive you forward, to act and reach your dreams and goals.

In order to get motivated, you need to know exactly what it is that you want - exactly what your dream is and you must be willing to do whatever it takes to achieve your goal.

Motivation has everything to do with your emotions and your ability to us your imagination, which means that if you want to increase your motivation, you have to actively work on your intensifying your feelings and imagination.

I've come up with 10 ways to help you maximize your motivation.

1. Make your goal as to what you want to achieve very clear in your head and write it down.

2. Read your goal out and think regularly throughout every day about your goal or desire.

3. Visualize your goal as already achieved.

4. Read books or articles, watch DVD's, documentaris and blogs about the subject of your goal to stimulate your desire.

5. Read about people who have achieved achieved the success you want.

6. Think often about the all the benefits you will gain by achieving your goal.

7. Visualize, and think about how you would feel after achieving your goal.

8. Repeat positive affirmations such as: "I have the desire and inner strength to be successful and achieve my dream". Repeat this affirmation and affirmations like this one often. State with faith and strong feelings.

9. Start with writing down a few small action steps concerning your goal and hold yourself to carrying them out. Success in small matters leads to greater success.

10. Print out your goals. Post them up on your wall or refrigerator. Post it at home and work. Put it on your computer desktop. You want to have big reminders about your goal, to keep your focus and keep your excitement going.

Motivation is the powerful engine that moves you towards success and accomplishments in every area with some small steps, baby ones in fact, you can get started down the road to positive change.

If you commit to doing one small thing to further your goal (even just 5 minutes) every single day, your goal will almost certainly come true.

Get support. It’s hard to accomplish something alone. You will have so many people falling over themselves to help you when you start showing your motivation and passion to get where you want to be in life.

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9 Great Reasons to Drink More Water

1. Water gives you bright and healthy skin.

Water naturally moisturizes skin and ensures proper cellular formation underneath layers of skin to give it a healthy, glowing appearance. Water stimulates the circulation of your blood, fluids, and the necessary elements inside your body. It also controls and regulates the skin’s natural balance. When water is warm, it has the energy to hydrate, refresh, detoxify, and oxygenate your skin. Warm water also gets rid of blackheads and makes large pores smaller. Drinking water makes the body more relaxed and rejuvenated.

2. Water keeps your brain healthy.

Your brain tissue contains about 85% water. Regularly drinking water keeps your brain to function well. Studies have shown that dehydration is a key factor in causing migraines, headaches, chronic fatigue syndrome and depression. The most common cause of daytime fatigue is actually mild dehydration.

3. Water flushes out those nasty toxins out of your body.

The function of your kidneys is to get rid of any waste from your body. If these toxins stay in your body they make you feel tired and sometimes unwell. These toxins also place a harmful burden on the other systems in your body. Water aids in the digestion process and prevents constipation.

4. Water regulates your body temperature, particularly during exercise.

When you exercise, you lose water through your breath and by sweating. As the sweat evaporates, your body cools. Replenishing any water you lose during exercise is vital for physical performance and good health. Too much water loss will increase your risk of heat exhaustion. In addition, to your normal six to eight glasses of water each day, drink a glass before you exercise. Then, for each 20 minutes of exercise, drink another cup or more. Be sure to drink a cup or two after you finish.

5. Drinking plenty of water lessens the risk of heart attacks.

Research has also shown that people who drink more than 5 glasses of water a day are less likely to die from a heart attack than people who drink less than two.

6. Water raises your metabolism.

Metabolism is the way by which the food you eat is converted into energy. The first chemical process that takes place is digestion. This process prepares the nutrients in the food to be absorbed by the body and transformed into energy. Drinking plenty of water is essential to maintain good digestion which keeps your metabolism going. The health benefit of water is better consumption of the nutrients you consume resulting in loads more energy.

7. You lose weight by drinking water.

Water helps you maintain a healthy body weight by increasing metabolism and regulating appetite. Drinking water is important if you’re trying to lose weight, some studies have shown that thirst and hunger sensations are triggered together. If there is a slight dehydration the thirst mechanism may be mistaken for hunger and you might eat when the body is really thirsty. As most food contains some water, if you don’t drink much they may be subconsciously driven to eat more to gain the necessary water supply however, you also consume more calories. So in short, drinking more water can help to prevent overeating and benefit weight loss.

8. Water is absolutely essential to the human body’s survival.

A person can live for about a month without food, but only about a week without water.

9. Drinking water lessens your chance of cancer.

Drinking plenty of water can decrease the risk of certain types of cancers, including colon cancer.